(This post contains affiliate links. Read my full disclosure here.)

Inside: Want to make your kids stop fighting? Does your house feel like a war zone? Are you at your wits end with sibling rivalry? This simple, yet effective tip will help your kids get along and stop fighting!

How to stop sibling rivalry

Does your home feel like a war zone?

Have your kids done nothing but fight all day?

Do you feel like you’re a referee for a boxing match? 

Do I sound like a crazy infomercial?! 😛

Seriously, though…

Whenever two kids can’t seem to agree on anything it makes for a very long day! 

Have you been there?

You try to get through cooking supper, but in the background, all you hear is squawking and fighting. It’s enough to make even the sweetest mama lose her mind!

If you are at your absolute wit’s end and have tried everything else, I’d like to encourage you to try this silly little trick to make your kids stop fighting.

One day, when I had enough, (and this mama doesn’t break easily!) I thought of a solution.

It’s silly, but it’s so easy and actually, it’s kinda fun! It definitely teaches kids the art of getting along!

Another bonus is that it will work with kids of any age (within reason, of course).

Brace Yourself!!!

I’m about to tell you my secret!

Drumroll, please!!!

I have them hold hands.


I set the timer (I like this one because I don’t like carrying my phone with me everywhere I go) for a set amount of time and the offending parties may not let go of each other’s hands until the timer is up.

But that’s not all.

They don’t just sit and hold hands, I give them silly little things to do.

For example, my 5 and 8-year-old could not get along one day last week so I set the timer for 15 minutes and then I sent them on a nature walk around the yard.

I gave them a few specific things to look for and told them I did not want them to run, but walk.

(OK, I admit, I partly just wanted to enjoy some peace and quiet, so I didn’t want them to run because then I knew it would end too soon! 🙂 )

Not Only Did They Stop Fighting

By the time they came back they were giggling and laughing and had several funny stories to tell me about their nature walk around the yard while holding hands.


Similarly, you might have them try folding clothes together or picking up the toys. It could be as simple as building a tower with some blocks.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a job.

Whatever you decide, make them do it while holding hands.

It seems like a crazy little exercise yet it works!

Think for a minute why kids don’t get along. They get stuck in a rut of opposing everything the other does.

Often times, for no good reason.  

When you make your kids hold hands, they have to become willing partners and talk to each other in order to collaborate and find a way to do something together.

Now this might seem like a simple silly little exercise, but it teaches so many different things.

It doesn’t just make kids stop fighting. There are so many benefits.

It Teaches Collaboration

When you make your kids hold hands, they have to become willing partners and talk to each other in order to collaborate and find a way to do something together.

They can’t just do their own thing.

They have to talk about the steps to whatever action they are going to do and figure it out. By holding hands, they can’t just consider themselves. It’s a joint-effort. 

The Also Learn Patience

When two people work together, they have to be patient with each other.

Or at the very least, begin to learn the art of patience. (Remember, parenting is a process!) There will always be one weaker partner and one stronger partner.

They each need to learn to adapt to each other and be patient in the process.

Not only will this silly little trick make kids stop fighting, but it will also teach them how to wait for each other.

It will also teach them to consider each other. And to put their own preferences aside.

When you make your fighting kids hold hands, you are actually allowing them to learn how to exercise patience. 

Good job, mama!

my simple easy secret to child training that you need to learn


In just a SHORT 5 minute read, you could change your parenting FOREVER! You don't want to miss this! 

Hidden Content

It Gets Rid of the “Me First” Syndrome

If you think about it, at the heart of any argument is the me first syndrome.

And it’s yucky! 

Most kids argue because they want what they want. (That’s one of my favorite books, by the way.)  And when they don’t get it it makes them angry.

When you make your kids hold hands and work together at something, they cannot put their own feelings first.

They have to consider the other person in order to complete the task.

It Usually Ends in a Laugh

More often than not, my kids end up finding this exercise funny.

Now it doesn’t usually start out that way, but by the end, they have found so many things to laugh about because it’s just not normal to do things holding hands!

It’s nice to be able to turn an argument into something funny

Not only Does it Makes Kids Stop Fighting, But it Also Distracts Them

I’ve found that if I just completely change the scenario for my fighting kids, it can make all the difference.

You already know all the reasons I think that holding hands is a good exercise, but finally, it may just be the change they need to forget about what they are fighting over in the first place!

And that’s GOLDEN!

What Happens if it Doesn’t Make My Kids Stop Fighting?

If it doesn’t work, don’t worry!

You just need to re-evaluate and try again.

Sometimes you will need to do this exercise a few times before you actually see results.

As with anything in parenting, it’s not usually one and done.  

Don’t be afraid to have your kids do the exercise over and over. (Bonus hint: Download, My Simple Easy Secret to Child Training It’s FREE! 🙂

You don’t want to miss out on it! It will make all the difference in your parenting, and…after reading it, you might not even need to make your kids hold hands!

Helping Your Kids Get Along Takes Practice

As I said before, child training takes practice and practice makes progress.

Also be sure to ask your kids heart probing questions so that they can identify what the problem actually is.


This way you are also getting to the heart of the problem instead of just putting a Band-Aid on it.

You’re Teaching Your Kids Life Long Skills

When you take the time to teach your kids how to stop fighting, and better yet, how to get along, you will be teaching them life-long skills.

They will learn to grow up and love each other! And maybe even be friends! What parent doesn’t want that?

And remember, as I said before, you can use this with any age. A few times I have had to use it with my older kids, but it usually only takes once for them! 🙂

And each time that you teach your kids to get along with each other, you will also gain a little piece of their hearts!

Have you ever tried this silly little trick? I’d love to hear your stories! What other fun methods have you used to get your kids to get along? I might just add your idea to my arsenal of tricks to use when my kids are fighting acting up! 😉

If you enjoy this post, will you please share it? Thank you so much!

How to stop sibling rivalry


  1. This is so practical and yet very purposeful, too. And you’re so right about “me first” being at the root of the problem. It’s shocking how selfish we human beings are. Eventually, as kids get older, I think it could be really beneficial to teach the biblical principles behind this little trick too (selflessness, patience, unity, etc.). Thanks for sharing the idea, Amber!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *