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Inside: Find out how to take care of your anger biblically. It will make all the difference in the world. These tips for biblical anger management will help you stay calm and not blow up.
Why You Should Take Care of Your Anger Before Bed
Sometimes resolving a conflict before bed is the last thing you want to do. Especially if it’s been a long day and you’re tired!
Have you ever had one of those days where you just couldn’t seem to get it together?
Everything hits you the wrong way, and you’re left with a feeling of GRRRR.
We all want a godly marriage. And anger is one of those things that can be so difficult to overcome.
We All Get Angry (Doesn’t Mean it’s Right 🙂 )
You don’t really want to be angry. And you definitely don’t want to deal with the same thing again tomorrow.
I’ve been there.
We all have.
I’m not sure what actually caused my first feeling of contempt. Somehow everything my husband said seemed to get under my skin and likewise, I seemed to irritate him. (I can’t understand why!)
The day progressed and the little things that were only slightly irritating in the morning, became huge issues by nightfall.
My weapon of choice was a cold shoulder, mixed with a bit of the silent treatment. (I’m not a yeller, but clamming up is not more biblical than blowing up.)
The ice cold atmosphere in our home continued into the evening. There was an unusual silence about the whole house.
Everyone knew things weren’t quite right
And then it was time for bed….
From the beginning of our marriage, almost 19 years ago, we have taken Ephesians 4:26-27 to heart.
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. Ephesians 4:26-27 (ESV)
Anger is Dangerous to Your Soul if Left Unresolved
Anger can kill a marriage and it can kill it fast.
Scripture is clear that we should not let our anger fester or it gives a way for Satan to grab ahold of our relationships and tear them apart.
Anger can sour even the greatest marriage if left unresolved.
Like a gangrene threatening to spread (and kill) if not dealt with, anger can poison the soul.
There’s a reason that God said to clear up our matters before we sleep on them.
If an issue isn’t handled immediately it’s too easy to wake up the next day to the same crazy cycle.
And yes, it’s crazy.
Anger can make us say, think, and do some pretty irrational things. It seems the longer anger is left undealt with, the more it can fester and become toxic.
The good news is, anger can be controlled.
When it’s handled Biblically, it doesn’t have to fester. It doesn’t have to carry into another day.
Why is it so Important to Take Care of Your Anger Biblically?
If we take the time to deal with anger when it rears it’s ugly head, then it can be put to rest and the relationship can be reconciled.
Our marriages depend on our ability to resolve a conflict.
Important to note is that without a proper solution to the issues that come between us as married couples, our marriages will become frail and weakened.
We become unable to serve the purpose for which God created us.
Furthermore, we are commanded as believers not to allow our anger to carry into another day, therefore we must deal with anger as soon as it occurs.
Like a rotting piece of meat, if anger is left unattended to, it will rot and become unuseful.
The Results are Worth It if You Take Care of Your Anger
We allow the Holy Spirit to work in our marriages when we’re able to reconcile our relationships and allow anger to be dealt with in a timely manner.
This in not only applicable to marriage, of course, as anger can occur in any relationship. We become more effective when we aren’t hung up by anger.
As a matter of fact, there have been many nights that my husband and I have stayed up far later than we would normally, in order to resolve an issue.
I’m glad to say that it has been well worth it.
We grow in our faith every time we choose to allow the Holy Spirit to work in our lives and we choose not to allow our anger to carry into another day.
Can you imagine what your home would look like if you took Ephesians 4:26-27 to heart?
If you make it a point to resolve your anger Biblically and quickly, you could spend your time on bigger and better things.
You would see the impact trickle on down to your children.
Not only that, but the time spent with your husband could be used to accomplish great and mighty things for God’s Kingdom.
My friend, I’d like to encourage you not to let another day go by without resolving your conflict and bring joy back into your home!
What Can You do Instead?
Offer words of encouragement to your husband.
Seek to be a peace maker.
Be ready and willing to forgive.
Work hard to build your relationship with your husband when you aren’t in conflict.
Equally important is to give grace even when it seems difficult to do so.
Make your marriage a priority. If your marriage isn’t nurtured, it will be much easier to let conflict become chaos.
Unfortunately, anger tends to be one of the first responses we all have. Fight hard to keep your words as sweet as honey (Proverbs 16:24) and put on kindness even when you’re tempted to be angry.
Remember all that you’ve been forgiven of and seek to be quick to forgive. I’m not saying this is easy, but it will make the difference in how you handle your anger and whether or not you do it biblically.
Finally, don’t ever give up. Again, it’s always best to resolve your anger quickly and biblically. God will bless your efforts. You will be so glad you put the time into your marriage!
How do you resolve anger? Is it tempting to let it spill over into the next day? Have you ever had to stay up in order to see an issue resolved? Were you glad you did?
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